Careless, forgetful or irresponsible...

Since Mika started school this year, he has lost whatever things that he brought to school on that very same day! Yes! Firstly, he didnt take home his thomas pencil case and I just thought he left it behind...but no, he lost it. After that, I didnt let him bring any stationery to school for a while as the school provides them. Secondly, he lost his water bottles every so often...I really dont know why, maybe he's too playful n forgets or just plain carelessness n not being responsible for his own belongings.

Some months later, I let him take his spidey pencil case to school and again, he lost it on that day itself. That's it...no more pencil case to school! And yesterday, he wanted to take a box of colour pencils...need not guess...yes, he left it behind again n yet to be found! I have spoken to him, explained to him many times that things need money to buy and he has to learn to take care of it but it's not really working yet! Help!

Sadly, he's not sad when he loses his things!! I have tried asking him nicely but he gave me different answers everytime. I really dont know when is he telling me the truth and which're stories he made up! *sigh* Funnily enough, he havent lost his snack box yet which is those take-away container! Am not going to waste my money getting him fancy tupperwares! Am happy that he's not losing his water bottle now...I know, *touch wood*.

The other way round...he's bringing home things that aren't his twice, once was pokemon cards and then spiderman stickers. I dont like it even if it's really given to him by his friends cos kids shouldnt bring these things to school. What if my little boy is lying and took it home without asking, not that I'm accusing my son or dont trust him but afterall they are kids. I did not let him keep them and got him to return all to his friends the very next day. Luckily, he did. I kept thinking are they exchanging stuffs in school? Why everytime Mika takes something new to school, he's not bringing it home?? Strange huh?? Whenever I ask him about that he said no, left it on the table, at the hall etc etc etc...!

But today...I found a RM10 note in his bag. I was shocked! I asked him nicely why is there money in your bag?? He simply replied his friend gave it to him...very direct n not suspiciously quiet. I trust my son that he didnt 'steal' it but I'm not happy why kids have so much money in school?? Mika told me that friend of his gave to another 3 friends as well! So rich huh kids nowadays! I dont understand why parents allow their 6yo kids to take money to school! I really have to bring this matter up to the principal cos I dont want any misunderstandings later on...at least for that added peace of mind.

I hope all parents will be more responsible n to make sure that their kids do not bring any toys or money to school. I dont mind them sharing food cos I do give Mika extra snacks to share at school.

I hope my little boy will not be so careless n forgetful. It's such a bad habit. Really have to think of ways to get him to be more responsible n love his belongings! More importantly that he's being truthful. It's not that I want to be suspicious of him but guess it's normal for us to somehow think what if or doubt. Sometimes I have this scary n upset feelings that what if my son is lying to me?...but I always teach him to tell the truth even if he has done wrong. It's impossible to nurture a perfect kid but a good one is good enough for me!

Read on this...it's a helpful parenting article on telling the truth by Ruth Liew.

*a little update*

I spoke to the principal this morning. It's indeed true that the boy had so much money with him which is for his tuition fees! How can his mom give him just like that *sigh* and he went distributing them to his friends! I brought up about the toys too since I was already talking to her. I know the school dont encourage bringing toys to school and dont blame them too for overlooking...once in a while! After all we are humans! But then I think the onus is still on the parents to be aware of what their kids are doin at school. I am very proud and glad that Mika is truthful...but frankly now am feeling a little guilty for what if he's lying actually crossed my mind yesterday! I do trust him but it's that 'just in case' thing! That's not trust?? *sigh...a big one!* It's nothing I hope...just have to not let him know that I had qualms about him...ok, it's just a minor bit and not a huge doubt that bothers me! *sheepish smile* but my mind is at ease now...